Happy New Year!
Firstly, HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!! I hope 2010 brings you much joy, happiness and incredible memories.
I can’t believe it is 2010 already. It takes my breath away. I smile at how much time has passed and everything I’ve experienced. I have to say I’m at a pretty content place bringing in this new year!
Already I’ve taken on some pretty extreme purges. I wanted to start this year with a fresh page. New starts. Zero tolerance. I’ve spent much of my life giving myself to others and in turn have made some incredible friends through this process. Having said that there were people in my life that were still taking me for granted and I needed to let them go. I have a family now. They come first. There are those in my life that respected that. There were those that didn’t. Guess who I purged?
2009 was about coming to terms with it all. It’s hard to tell yourself that you have people in your life that are affecting you in such a negative way. They were in my life for years (and looking back have always affected me in a negative way). How can I just let them go? I just felt compelled to be the person in their lives that would help them. Forever. I was prepared for a lifetime of that, honestly. They were like sisters. But then when you bring your own flesh and blood into the world you start to reevaluate your priorities drastically. He’s the one that you care about first. There will be people in your life that will understand that (and can relate to that) and there are people who just never will and try everything to hold you back. It was my a-ha moment of 2009. It was time to let them go. Just because they’ve been in your lives for years doesn’t mean you have to keep carrying them on your back. Forget a lifetime of that. What was I thinking?
2010 is about loving the people that are always there for me. It’s not about years of friendship anymore. It’s about what kind of friend they are. Time is so precious and the time you get to spend with your friends after starting a family is so far and few between as the years go by. I cherish every moment with my friends. This year I will spend my time with friends I want to spend time with. The friends that inspire me to be a better person. The friends who will be there for me without their own agenda or selfish reasons. The friends that will make me look good in any given public situation. I am blessed to have those kinds of friends.
Since the purge I feel like a darkness has been lifted and I can sigh with genuine relief. It’s amazing how much your high maintenance friends can suck the life out of you.
Maybe this post will inspire others to start cutting out the losers in their life. There’s just a point in your life when you just have to let go. Ask yourself what they’ve done for you lately. If you are struggling for an answer you need to seriously consider ditching them. If I sound bitter I promise it’s more disappointment and a feeling of being let down after so much time and effort. But life is for making your mistakes and learning from them and I learned some really big lessons in 2009. I’ll never get fooled again. And don’t forget…
Real friendships are effortless.
(Some favourite friend and family moments of 2009. I love these people!!)
It takes a long time to grow an old friend. ~John Leonard
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